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i need help.?

well..here it goes.. -i am 18..happily married for 2 yrs. -my hubby is 27..( i know..it is weird but don't laugh @ me!) -i came from india last yr and my hubby grew up in america -we have a few cultural differences...and he is a doctor( stilla resident so he just make $3000 a month plus med school debt) and has friends who r very materialistic and always talk about bars, wines, high class restaurants, fashion and jewelry ...so i don't like to hang out with them. but he does and i don't mind. -i go to college a local community college and i have no car (again financial problems) now my question is how do i make new friends? All my frinds are in India and i was so busy last yr being newly married and helping my inlaws..and studying that i did not socialize even a little bit...and i am a bit shy too.. How do i make friends? i can't go out a lot becoz i don't have a car only my hubby does will people get scared and not talk to me as i am married at an early age? coz i am still learning about American culture and i don't know how to make friends........ @ school i talk to few people but the relations r restricted about school only..not like hanging out and stuff.. i need to make friends! but how? i feel so lonely sometimes also, when i posted this question earlier people thought that my hubby is controlling..he is not..he asks me if i want to go somewhere he can give me a ride and he wants to help..i am the one who does not want to get involved with his friends as i am afraid that i may lose my culture and heritage about my culture........his friends and their wives r materialistic and i don't want to be like them

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You make friends in North America the same way you do in India. You chat with people and when you find a connection or something in common you expand on that. Why would hanging with his friends cause you to lose your hertiage but making your own friends wouldn't? That's silly logic.
Just try and talk to ppl more. Ask for help on your college work. Meet some of his friends wives. Just because their husbands are uppity doesn't mean they will be. Even if they are they may be really nice. You just have to try talking more and going places where ppl you like hang out. Good Luck
You might want to try to get to know his friends.... they'll be around as long as you are. If you really don't want to, join a club or an organization at your community college. Get involved at the school. School is an excellent place to meet people. Hang out in the courtyard or cafeteria, or where ever people hang out.
i can understand,,, well ur 18 and maried 2 yrs ago, woahh,, its kinda illegal, but alls fair in love,, well u dnt have to reveal ur birth date, no girl ever does,, go ahead, and lern by ur mistakes,, itll be fun,, cheers,,
he may have relatives near your age...dont worry..it will be ok when you get to know ppl...learn english and take courses etc where you can meet others,,
U can make friend but u must respect your husband. And u must honest to your friend u are married already.
If you are that afraid of losing your culture then you will never be a true American so my advice is go the hell home. You should want to be American if you are here not just an Indian living in America.
Well being friends with his is kind of hard but what you can do is see if you can talk to there girlfriends and maybe you can become friends with them you will not lose your culture if you talk about these things all they are is material things and they come and go so you should not worry about why don't you try and get a part time job like at a mall or place to shopp like target or something make friends there. And I am like I was shy but know I have some friends and I have four kids and I am 20 so don't worry about it to much and be happy. And if you do not want to get a job then you can make alot of friends at school just make conversation like how old are you where are you from and just talk when you talk about school add so what are you going to do this weekend. That is all. And if not just try going out places with your husband just you and him.
I have to imagine that the pride and feelings you have towards your culture and heritage are something that are very near and dear to you and are not something that could be easily uprooted from who you are, or forgotten. With that said, do not be afraid to evolve as a person. This means evolving socially. A good place and a great way to make friends may be through school. Clubs or activities where you are somewhat gauranteed to have something in common with the people envolved. Also, another to consider might be to look for organizations, or social clubs consisting of and created for other immigrants of your home culture. Good luck... you sound like a very nice and conscientious person and you should have no problems making friends.
Find something that interests YOU, join a club or find a hobby-you will make friends through that venue. Have a little self confidence-you sound very likable!