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i am so involved in my marriage that i have no friends?

well..here it goes.. -i am 18..happily married for 2 yrs. -my hubby is 27..( i know..it is weird but don't laugh @ me!) -i came from india last yr and my hubby grew up in america -we have a few cultural differences...and he is a doctor( stilla resident so he just make $3000 a month plus med school debt) and has friends who r very materialistic and always talk about bars, wines, high class restaurants, fashion and jewelry ...so i don't like to hang out with them. but he does and i don't mind. -i go to college a local community college and i have no car (again financial problems) now my question is how do i make new friends? All my frinds are in India and i was so busy last yr being newly married and helping my inlaws..and studying that i did not socialize even a little bit...and i am a bit shy too.. How do i make friends? i can't go out a lot becoz i don't have a car only my hubby does will people get scared and not talk to me as i am married at an early age? coz i am still learning about American culture and i don't know how to make friends........ @ school i talk to few people but the relations r restricted about school only..not like hanging out and stuff.. i need to make friends! but how? i feel so lonely sometimes

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You are already making a big step to get on yahoo. You'll make friends, don't worry, since your english is so good. They will just come to you. But don't hang around here too long. There is a lot of personalities here. And don't believe everything you hear on the web.
try friendster.com and myspace.com and facebook.com wait, those are kinda hazardous to marriages. but maybe that's a very thing you need.
I am 22 just got married last month to a man that is 37... I am from 3 hours away from where we live so i have no friends here... i will be your friend pm me... where u live now?
What religion are you? You can probably find a local group to meet similar people. I would also recommend volunteering for something you care about. It's another great way to meet people who have similar interests. I know it's hard to meet people at school because folks don't usually want to be there and are in a hurry to leave.
oh i guess it was an arrange marriage?? my family is from india too:D anyways when you go to your local community school u can make friends by just smiling at people and maybe go and sit next to them, even i am abit shy but try this: jus smile at them and they will talk to u, if they dont, jus ask them if they have done any work or anything like that about what work you are doing.
Girl, I am 34 and I have probably two friends, because I am married and have a two year old. The only way to connect with people is to find similar interests with those at school. Maybe join a school club, voluteer, or even host a party of some sort. No one should be afraid of your marital status, but realize that your commitments is what is not allowing you to make time for friends, but be patient and those friends will crawl out of the wood work, just be sure your eyes are open for them!
Try to join some committees or groups at school that are interesting to you. That way, the same type of people will be in them too, and you'll have something in common.
Try asking someone to study with you. You can do that right there at school and then it will lead to talking about other stuff. Try getting to know his friends one at a time. If he likes them he will want you to get involved with them too and maybe one at a time you can get past their materialistic ways and get to really know them. People in a group especially, like to put on airs to impress. Perhaps one on one they will be more friendly. Invite one of them over for lunch or coffee or ask for their help with something. Have an open house for the holiday so you can get to know them better. Or make some Indian food to introduce them to. Just keep trying. Talk to your neighbors, get to know them. Best wishes!
well have you tried joining the 'Y'?....i made a few friends when i moved to FL. last year when i joined the 'Y' and started taking a few classes there and they discounts for students...also try starting or joining a book club.....good luck!
mhmmm... it will happen. y dont you try to change the subject from school to something else... try music or ask where there are cool places to hang. Being married wouldnt make my decision on being your friend. As for a car, your husband should purchase you a car or lend you his. That seems a little unfair.
What do you have that is within walking distance or able to ride a bike to? Maybe you should get a dog . It will be a friend as well as a reason for you to get out and walk and at least meet friends in your neighborhood. Also, talk to him. He is being a bad husband if he isn't including you in his life.
Watch shows on channels like MTV, movies like The Breakfast Club...most anything goes here...you will be fine. All you have to do is stand up straight, smile and look people in the eye when you are talking to them..you will make friends.
Um just go and talk to someone we cant really know how people will treat u if u don't talk to them.i am sure someone will talk to u and eventually be your friend.and forget about the car people can live with out a car because i don't have one and i have lots of friends.
Ask the girls at school to join you for lunch there on campus... if it doesn't work out... try someone else... try again.... someone will click. Also, you could check around the town you are in for any groups of people from India..... religious groups or cultural groups. You could try to chat with any young females in your neighborhood and invite them to your house for lunch. You could go to see a counselor on your college campus and ask for suggestions.... Make a list of possible ways that you can think of making friends... think about how you would go about this in India.. OR think about how you would answer this question to a woman in your shoes in India.... I'm sorry you are lonely, but one day at a time... I feel sure that you will find your way and develop a social life that works for you.
$3,000/ month is more than twice what I make a month - and my loans and debt payments are sky high. That would be more than enough money for 2 people to live happily in my world. From what I understand, women in India are oppressed compared to women in the American culture. My honest opinion of what is going on in your marriage is not pleasant. I feel your husband is keeping you from becoming a part of the American culture. You have no friends, no dependable transportation, and you take care of your inlaws - and he accepts that. He certainly is not a holistic care doctor if he can treat his wife so poorly. I would not trust his diagnosises at all. Especially because of your age difference, I think your husband will just end up using you as his housekeeper and whore. You already accept a social life without him - and he accepts his social life without you. I doubt if you will ever make real friends because your husband's domineering ways of controlling your life will always get in the way of your contentedness and happiness. If it isn't a terribly hurtful thing to do, I would go back to India at least while he finishes his internship so you can have a happy life with your friends and family and familiar environment. Your controlling husband is stopping you from making friends, not your age or shyness.